The pandemic has drastically changed how we interact as people. Schools have gone either partially or completely virtual, and many people continue to work from home. Because of this our human interaction have greatly changed. Social distancing has reduced social interactions to a distanced wave, while parties, weddings, and other social gatherings have ceased to exist almost overnight. More than anything, we are longing for connection, any type of human connection and relationship we can find (even if it is on Zoom…). But how can we judge the importance of our relationships, if we can’t physically be with the ones we care about?
The crucial part in any relationship is making the effort to be there, and to support the other persons needs. However, many people interpret “being there” as being physically present for a special event, such as a birthday party, holiday, or girl’s night out. But many forget to emphasize the importance of being emotionally present for the ones you love. Sure, you can go to your friend’s Christmas party, but if you are on your phone half of the time, and zoning in and out of conversations with others, are you really there to support your friend?
During this time, relationships of character are taking precedence over ones of convenience. As a result, we are learning that emotional engagement is just as important as physical presence. Both show commitment, and when it comes down to it, that’s what any kind of relationship is about; a relationship, whether platonic, familial, or romantic, is a commitment to another person. Popping on a phone call and actually listening, paying attention, and responding to what a loved one has to say is form of commitment. Time, energy, sympathy, and support, are all emotional investments that you give to others, and others give to you. It is even more of a commitment if one purposely makes an effort and schedules time for you, especially in the chaotic times of COVID. Keep in mind; people are struggling with issues that you are not aware of, so be patient and understanding during this season, while appreciating the ones who do make an emotional investment in you.
The pandemic is not a barrier, but a true test of human interaction. The crisis has taught is that quality is just as important as quantity in every type of relationship, from friendship, to family, and even romantic interest(s). We, as people, are finally beginning to realize the amount of time face to face, while important, does not define a relationship. So check in with yourself this holiday season, and use the lessons of COVID to gage the relationships in your life, even when the crisis is long gone. Are you really emotionally connecting with others, even when you can’t be physically present? Which relationships need a little more love attentiveness? Is this person actually worth all the time and effort you give them? Your reflection will show the true salt of each friendship and relationship with loved ones; use it to judge what commitments are worthwhile.
And most importantly, DO NOT waste your time, energy and love on a relationship that is giving you neither quantity nor quality. Your company is worth so much more than you realize. Start treating your time as true emotional investments in other people, and always keep the relationship with yourself at the top of the list. Your health and overall happiness is what truly matters the most.