Pain, grief, and sadness are at times necessary as part of the healing process. It makes us appreciate the many good things and people that we have in our life. Yet, we as humans, postpone the healing process by refusing to move beyond our sense of self, and ultimately grow from our personal pain. Pain, sorrow, and grief prevent you from loving, trusting and surrendering to something bigger than yourself, because pain is all about self. Even when pain is caused by someone else, the pain is your pain, the grief is your grief, and the sadness is your sadness.
Having your pain or grief continues for a long period of time permeates into your sense of self. It becomes toxic in nature, and transforms into deeper feelings such as resentment, anger, wrath, and even addiction. It is unfortunate that when pain resonates, because it forfeits any manifestation of blessing that God is trying to do in your life. However, Faith can be a crucial element in the healing process, because having Faith is about pushing your ego beyond one’s self and fully releasing control to God. Like Faith, healing takes a conscious effort, alongside sincerity, and trust in its process. That demand grows even more when one is in doubt or uncertain about the future. By consciously releasing control to God you take the pain away from yourself, and give it to him. It gives you the opportunity to focus away from the pattern of self loathing and into a positive healing process: activating the Love of God inside of you and harnessing your strength from within.
Faith is not predicated upon your Desires, but what God Requires. As Christians, it is a mandated responsibility for us to act in Faith. Acting in true Faith does not mean that we try to predict the future, or try to shift our focus so that the situation will work in the manner that we think it should. We do not create unnecessary drama with our own personal hang-ups or delusional mannerisms. God is God and he is OUT OF OUR CONTROL. Relinquish the need to control and allow God to do his work. For when you get rid of control, you never have to worry about making the wrong decision, for the decision was never yours to begin with. 🙂
As Toni Braxton sang years ago, “Let it Flow, Let It Flow, Let it Flow… Everything’s Gonna Work Out Right You Know.” You must let pain flow, you must let grief flow, you must embrace, and feel those emotions in order to move beyond them. Allow the Experience to Be what it’s to Be. Yet, when you are ready to move on, go ahead and MOVE towards the next phase of your life. Do not let a hurdle become a brick wall. You have a responsibility, not only to yourself, but to God, to carry out His purpose. Staying in grief will not move you any further in your journey. Even if you are unsure as to what the next step is, step beyond yourself, and trust that God will lead you in the right direction.
A Prayer:
God, do whatever you want to do, Say whatever you want to say, and Remove Me from the equation. I give myself to You and, I release everything that should not Be. You are the Author and Finisher of My Faith; I stand knowing that you have my best interests at heart. Take over God and create a new understanding that all will be exactly what you want it to be. Let me move past the feeling of pain, and truly embrace, enjoy, and experience the wonders in life that You give! Amen!